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Month: March 2019

Each baby step forward you take is still a step forward

Let’s get one thing clear, we have been conditioned by society and technology to expect big results in as little time as possible. Anything from 15 minute pizza delivery guarantees to 2 day prime Amazon deliveries to instant online downloads, we want the biggest and best things in life in minutes. In fact, some of us have become so impatient that we expect the very best things life has to offer delivered yesterday. Talking about setting ourselves up for a letdown. There are many challenges in your life that will take quite a bit of effort, attention and energy. You may be going through school. You may be trying to earn a degree. You may be trying to get your dream job. You may be trying to convince your boss to give you a well earned raise or promotion. Whatever form the challenge takes, please understand that it’s something you have to work on. It’s something that often takes a long time. This is what trips many people up. We live in a world that is increasingly impatient. As recently as 10 years ago, it was perfectly acceptable for pizza shops to deliver pizza in 30 minutes or else it’s 100% free. Do you think that’s still the case in most metropolitan areas in the United States? Absolutely not. Today, we have reached a point where if your pizza...

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Refusing to expect big starts is one of the keys to success

I remember the first time I learned how to ride a bike. After several false starts that involved me and my brother scraping our knees and becoming bloody messes, we were able to stay on that bike. It was one of the happiest days of our lives. There’s just something about that “I did it” moment when you push on one pedal then the other and it quickly dawns on you that you won’t fall off the bike (and hurt yourself again). I suppose it’s close to the feeling of a bird flying off its next for the first time. Sadly, far too many of us quickly go from the thrill of discovery and achievement to the expectation that now we can do the most extreme version of whatever it is we achieved. Talk about getting ahead of ourselves. But we do it anyway. The interesting thing about my biking experience was that we automatically assumed that the next day, we can race in the tour de france. We basically racing all around the block. We were biking long distances. We shot out of the gate, so to speak. Here’s the problem. Regardless of how excited you may be when you first learned something, please understand that at first, there will be challenges. Don’t expect things to go smoothly. They often never do. This should not be a surprise....

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Constantly challenge yourself to maintain your confidence

You have to understand that if you want to build your self confidence, you have to actually do something. When you do anything, you lay the foundation for increasing levels of self confidence. How come? When you decide to do something and try to get good at it, you start picking out the patterns. You start figuring everything out by breaking things and processes into parts. You start seeing the relationship of these parts and you’re able to connect the dots. Sooner or later, you are able to know the process like the back of your hand. Now, here’s the thing. Most people don’t do things that way. Most people would rather take things on a superficial level and call it a day. What do you think happens when you get compared to those people? You are able to do things more effectively and efficiently. Most importantly, you are able to optimize your skills so every single day you’re at the job, at school or anywhere else, you increase the value you get from your daily interactions. You stand out from the crowd. It becomes obvious to anyone looking at you or looking at your co-workers that you are not just going through the motions. You are actually doing things to take things to the next level. You go beyond the call of duty. You’re constantly challenging yourself and...

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Self confidence is paid for in terms of problems solved

A lot of people are under the impression that self confidence is some sort of magical jacket that somebody gives you just for showing up to an event. That event, of course, is called life. I wish I could tell you that this thinking is absolutely spot on. Unfortunately, if I were to do that, I would be flat out lying to you. If I were to tell you that any of this is true, I would just be setting you up for a massive disappointment later on. Life is not some sort of dinner party where respect, admiration, competence and self confidence are awarded as door prizes. It would be great if this were the case, but unfortunately, we live in reality. The reality is life is unfair. Life can be chaotic. Life, often times, doesn’t have some sort of rhyme or reason. We can cry about this, we can scream to the heavens that all of this is unfair, unwarranted and uncalled for, but let me tell you, if you do that, nothing will change. Life will go on. You really have a choice at this point. Either you’re going to have to take on life based on its own terms, or you’re going to just crawl in your shell and hope that somehow, someway, the world conforms to how you wish it was. Which is it...

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Every challenge is doable if you chop it down to size

It’s very easy to get so worried about the challenge facing you that you just freeze up and quit. It’s very easy to get discouraged. It’s very easy to feel that your problem is so big and so scary that there’s really no way you can get out from under it. You might as well just give up. You might as well lose all hope. If any of these enter your frame of mind, you are simply just taking the path of least resistance. You’re looking at the situation from the perspective of somebody who wants to do the least work. If you are serious about coming out on top and achieving unstoppable victory, every challenge does not have to be scary. Every challenge does not have to have the potential of crushing you and stealing your dreams. Instead, if you have the right mindset, every challenge is actually going to be an opportunity. Think about it. If you are faced with a challenge that really pushes you back against the wall and incentivizes you to step up your problem solving skills, what do you think will happen? That’s right. Your natural imagination, resourcefulness and creativity are triggered. You figure out a way. If you can’t get through the front door, you will try the roof. If the roof doesn’t work, you try the basement. If the basement is...

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